It’s Time to Stop Abandoning Yourself

...and Start Becoming Who You Really Are

Break free from people-pleasing, heal your attachment patterns, and finally feel safe being fully you.

[Free Guide] The Little Black Book of Boundaries

If you’re exhausted from holding everything together… you’re not alone.

You’ve spent years being the responsible one… the fixer… the emotional anchor…
And somehow, you still end up feeling unappreciated, overwhelmed, unseen, and resentful.
Afraid that being honest will push people away

You’ve learned to keep the peace at the cost of your own needs.
You’re scared that if you stop over-giving, the people you love won’t stay.
You want deeper connection—but you’re tired of disappearing inside it.

You’re not broken. You’re not dramatic.

You’re operating from patterns you were taught, not who you truly are.
And those patterns can be changed.

I’m Kari – and I know exactly what it’s like to lose yourself in relationships.

For years, I shaped myself into whatever other people needed:
the easy one, the strong one, the low-maintenance one.

Inside, I felt lonely, resentful, and anxious. I lived in constant fear of being too much and not enough at the same time.

But everything changed when I learned the truth:
You don’t have to betray yourself to be loved. In fact, the real you is the part that creates the deepest connection of all.

Today, as a researcher, educator, and coach specializing in boundaries, attachment, and authenticity, I help women break free from people-pleasing and finally build relationships and lives where they feel:

  • safe
  • chosen
  • respected
  • emotionally held
  • and deeply, authentically themselves

And I’d love to guide you there too.

You can become the woman who:

  • says “no” without spiraling

  • communicates needs clearly and calmly

  • stops chasing or fixing

  • attracts healthy, reciprocal relationships

  • feels confident, grounded, and secure

  • no longer makes herself small to keep others comfortable

This isn’t about becoming someone new.

It’s about coming home to who you were before you learned to abandon yourself.

Start THE Journey Back To Yourself

Three Ways to Heal Your Patterns—One Path to Becoming Fully You.

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Big breakthroughs. Real-world results.

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Heal deeply-rooted patterns, strengthen your sense of self, and practice new relational skills in a safe, connected space.

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If you’re tired of feeling guilty, resentful, or confused every time you try to set a boundary… this book will change your life.

Most advice about boundaries is incomplete, confusing, or oversimplified.
The B-Word clears the noise and gives you:

  • the real reasons you struggle with boundaries

  • the attachment patterns driving your reactions

  • how to know exactly which boundary you need

  • scripts for real conversations

  • tools for staying grounded when people push back

  • and the mindset shift that makes boundaries finally stick

Be yourself. Be loved. Be free.

The ultimate, real-world guide to embracing your inner b-word so you can set boundaries, be yourself, and live your best life.

The B Word Kari Tumminia boundaries book
The B Word Kari Tumminia boundaries book

Want to become a boundary boss? Start here.

Most of us were never taught what boundaries actually are, let alone how to set them without anxiety, guilt, or fear.

Inside this deep-dive masterclass, you’ll learn:

  • what boundaries really are (and aren’t)

  • how attachment affects your ability to speak up

  • the 3 kinds of boundaries every woman needs

  • how to set boundaries without shutting down or blowing up

  • how to stop people-pleasing on autopilot

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Attachment. Boundaries. Authenticity. Ditching the “Good-Girl” Programming.
And the real, unpolished truth about healing.